Relationships and Rules…

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Little ones.

You have to tell them not to touch the flame of a candle or to stick a pebble up their nose. You have to teach them not to eat things that are dirty or poisonous…not to touch their momma’s cute little figurines.

Some things are for their own good and some things are for the good of their present and future relationship with others.

As we grow older, if we are emotionally healthy, we don’t look at those guidelines as harmful or prohibitive.

Yet, as adults, some of us look at God’s guidelines as cramping our style or not allowing us freedom.


Why do we do that? It makes no more sense than to look back and think our parents were snapping us down because they didn’t want us to stick a metal skewer in a light socket.

Let’s think this thru just a little. All of life involves relationships. God planned it that way. He wants a meaningful relationship with us and then…he wants us to have fulfilling relationships with others. We are wired for relationships. It is was keeps the life in living.

Of course, the enemy wants our relationships damaged. He wants us to hold back, to be reclusive. It is what takes the life out of living.

We tend to cooperate with the enemy, because we think we know better than God. We are naturally selfish and self-protective…and often in all of the wrong ways.

Pick your poison.

Maybe you have a quick tongue and you excuse it with, “That’s just the way I am.”

Maybe it is your carelessness about developing your relationship with God. “I am too busy…too tired…it doesn’t make sense.”

Maybe it is your sex life. God tells us to confine sex to marriage. Most have sex before marriage and eventually experience the damage of that particular rebellion. Of course, selfishly, many have sex outside of their own marriage. The generations that destroys!

Maybe you are a stranger to telling the truth. God tells us not to lie. Every one of us has lied. For some, because we have chosen not to correct ourselves swiftly and do life honestly, lying has become a way to make life work for us.

“Oh, what a tangled web we weave…when first we practice to deceive.” ― Walter Scott,

Lies are horrible. They destroy relationships. They destroy your own emotional health and joy. It becomes harder and harder to see how to make life work for you without lying.  Lies destroy your family and your future, unless you are willing to see it for what it is…and do the work.

Matthew 22:37-39 (NIV) 37  Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ 38  This is the first and greatest commandment. 39  And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’

We resist this kind of life because we can think of it as restrictive.


It is passed off as old fashioned and simplistic.


The truth is…rejecting God’s directives is not only self-serving …it is unintelligent and lazy. One who thinks this way thinks only of the moment. There is no thought about where this behavior will take him/her…no thought of how it will affect others. No thought of the damage it is going to do down the road.

Yet somehow, it is twisted into the “better way”.

Just like a two year old, sticking that metal into the light socket and cocking his eyes over at his mom to be sure she isn’t looking…

Are you systematically exploding your own present and future world, because (by your actions) you are saying that you believe your way is smarter, more progressive, more free and full of joy, than God’s way?


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